9 Tips about Death, from Ugly to Lovely

What an idea! How cruel is that to realize that you don’t belong where you think you belong!

What an idea! How cruel is that to realize that you don’t belong where you think you belong! How cruel it is to realize that you’ll die and be buried in a grave! How cruel it is to realize that you can simply die now, tomorrow or just two seconds away! How cruel it is to realize and know by scientists that this earth entirely will never stay forever!

Those ideas, beliefs and facts can hold you from sleeping for a very long time, you just try and try not to think of them, but they keep coming back, they dominate you, they dominate me, and whatever tries we make to get over, efforts don’t work.

So here’s my experience on the matter, to turn those facts from ugly to lovely.


  • Search faith about the hereafter in Islam


Believing in the hereafter is a nature in human beings, it’s enough for us to see death, it’s also enough for us to have a dream to be in a place we have never been to find ourselves there the very next day. All beliefs spoke about the hereafter somehow, you’ll find it reasonable in Islam, there’s no turning into an animal, but there are:

  • A bookhave
  • A witness
  • The judge
  • Accounting
  • A huge mercy
  • A payback
  • A reward
  • And an eternity


  • Turn fear into a motivation


Fear isn’t like we’ve learnt the worst part in a relationship, it’s like the chilly in a delicious plate, and without it you might feel stuffed very fast and feel no more enjoying your meal. Fear is part of it, it’s not complete without it, Muslim scholars say that relationship with Allah is on 2 wings, one of them hope/love, and the other is fear, hell is fear, penalty is fear, jail is fear, departure is fear. Fear always make you run faster, to run is much better than to stand, to sit down, to sleep and of course better than falling. Running is healthier, gives you muscles and better heart beat on the long term.


  • It’s just a passage


And no matter how ugly it looks like, this too is going to pass, and yes some people will die, we’re all going to die, most importantly, on which condition we will, fighting for the truth, or fighting against it?!


  • Make the meaningless, meaningful


If you don’t think that everything you do here has a feedback there (in the hereafter) then why are you doing it?

No matter how strong believer you are, you’ll come to the point of: OK, this will finite someday, then why am I doing it? This is a broken chain anyway, someday all this going to finite, the entire earth will.

The only thing will keep you doing is to believe that what you build on this earth, you’ll find in a much better shape there; in Paradise.

Making people happy, helping others, can stop at the point of not getting so happy doing so, have you ever faced a situation when you helped someone then this one hurt you later so much, made you reconsider if you really want to help others?

The only meaning that will remain steady, is to do it for pleasing Allah (The Creator),  for Him to give you something as a reward, to help you as long as you help others, Muhammad said:

If anyone relieves a Muslim believer from one of the hardships of this worldly life, Allah will relieve him of one of the hardships of the Day of Resurrection. If anyone makes it easy for the one who is indebted to him (while finding it difficult to repay), Allah will make it easy for him in this worldly life and in the Hereafter, and if anyone conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults in this world and in the Hereafter. Allah helps His servant as long as he helps his brother.” [Related by Muslim].


  • Don’t dig deep into the hereafter and forget to live


I fasts and I breakfast, I wake up at night for praying and sometimes I sleep, I get married. Those were the words of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, digging deep into thinking of death and hereafter, may make you forget that you’re still here, don’t neglect your temporary joy as well, consider it a help for you to continue until then. But take it the easy way, not the hard way:

  • Create the ‘Things to do before I die’ list, but rearrange priorities


But this time, put learning about the Creator as a top priority, everything else will become meaningless if you didn’t fulfill this hole inside your heart, everything else will become very tiny and temporary, comparing to this huge question in your head. Enjoy your trip to Hawaii, your joy will soon come back to this question before you sleep: What this is all about?


  • Help others to get through


Help others, not for you to be happy, I saw many people stopped helping others because they find it no more fun, they face challenges. And do not help others to please them, I saw people who never stopped helping a needy even when he turned against them. You’ll always find a reason on this earth why you should stop helping others, if you don’t have a hereafter purpose.


  • Reorganize your priorities, and accompany people who don’t stick to it


When you drown into life, making yourself more dependent on one of its temporary joys, therefore this joy suddenly stops -for being finite by nature- and hurts you so deep, making you feel like world became worthless after this loss. But when you enjoy while knowing that you, she, he, and even that joy are going at the end, then you can have a full joy with your own independency from life.  So don’t keep that question opened and irritating, know the answer, enjoy the beautiful moments as independent, enjoy it the hero way.  


  • Listen to Quran, read Quran


Quran isn’t just relaxing, and overwhelming to make you feel safer in here, but it gives you a path where to go, and tells you what to do, here are some examples:

And your Lord would not have destroyed the cities unjustly while their people were reformers”. [Quran.com/11/117].

O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allah, even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allah is more worthy of both. So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted”. [Quran.com/4/135].

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Read more: Quran.com/44





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