Why is Grass always greener on the other side of the fence? You need to ask yourself if you really are working too hard. Your life is an accumulation of your experiences. Some of those experiences are going to be more pleasant than others. If you find yourself with an unbalanced amount of unpleasant experiences, you need to determine if you are setting unrealistic goals for yourself.
Here we will learn the following:
Are you asking yourself, why my life so hard?
If you are asking yourself, why my life is so hard, then there is probably something missed from your life. Ask yourself, are you living a life of complacency or a life of purpose?
Why is life difficult?
While the journey to change your life is not always easy, it should ultimately be enjoyable. You should enjoy learning more about yourself, your goals, and your motivations.
1. Nature of Our Complex lives presents us with unique challenges
We all live diverse and complex lives that present us with unique challenges which can easily make us feel like we are the only one’s dealing with our struggles.
As a “Human Nature”, It is our nature to see what others have and forget what we already have. The real winner is s/he who overcomes this sense and feels content in spite of what s/he loses.
Regardless of how you define “purpose,” you know whether you are chasing it or settling for less. Interestingly enough, you will face challenges in both cases. The only difference is how you feel at the end of the day and at the end of your whole life.
The Holy Quran is discussing this truth:
“يَا أَيُّهَا الإِنْسَانُ إِنَّكَ كَادِحٌ إِلَى رَبِّكَ كَدْحًا فَمُلاقِيه (6)”
“O man, you are laboring towards your Lord laboriously, then you are bound to meet Him”.
Quran [84:6]
The quiet voice of confidence is the voice that is pushing you to chase your dream life. Your dream life is the life you would live if you did not have any responsibilities or obstacles. If you are wondering why life is so diifcult, you could be struggling to accomplish your purpose.
For example, you may have to follow many approaches or try many trials to define what you want exactly. you don’t want to reach the end of your life never having truly lived. There are plenty of people who find their last days filled with regret because they always succumbed to their fears.
2. The Ugly Face of Social Media
Some social media platforms are the main reason for dissatisfaction like Facebook and Instagram. People always tend to share only their happy moments, and their achievements, and they avoid showing their bad events. So, indirectly, we feel that some people have everything and they are overwhelmed with joy; however, the dark side of their lives is hidden.
3. Dissatisfaction on Its Peak (Instagram)
NHS reported that Instagram is rated as the worst social media platform when it comes to its impact on young people’s mental health. In fact, the survey asked 1,479 young people aged 14-24 to score popular social media apps on issues such as anxiety, depression, loneliness, bullying, body image, and “fear of missing out” – where your social media peers seem to be enjoying a better quality of life.
How to be Overwhelmed with Satisfaction (Islam’s Point of View)
To be overwhelmed with satisfaction you need to give up looking at other people’s lives and striving to get all that they have: money, the perfect relationship, family, health, the perfect body, the perfect face, and sincere friends. It is hard, right? Will seeking all these targets bring you ultimate happiness? Or is it a bootless errand? Eventually, look at how Islam solves it.
The most important thing is while you are doing your best don’t doubt that you are following the right track that will help you in attaining happiness in both this worldly life and your coming eternal life.
Life is too short but the Hereafter has no end. That’s why we are seeking incomparable endless happiness. In the Day of Judgment.
God stated in the Quran the reality of this life compared to the hereafter, saying:
أَرَضِيتُم بِٱلۡحَيَوٰةِ ٱلدُّنۡيَا مِنَ ٱلۡأٓخِرَةِۚ فَمَا مَتَٰعُ ٱلۡحَيَوٰةِ ٱلدُّنۡيَا فِي ٱلۡأٓخِرَةِ إِلَّا قَلِيلٌ (38) ”
“Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.”
[Quran 9:38]
Also this verse clarified the true meaning of life:
“مَا عِندَكُمۡ يَنفَدُ وَمَا عِندَ ٱللَّهِ بَاقٖۗ وَلَنَجۡزِيَنَّ ٱلَّذِينَ صَبَرُوٓاْ أَجۡرَهُم بِأَحۡسَنِ مَا كَانُواْ يَعۡمَلُونَ (96)”
“Whatever you have will end, but whatever Allah has is everlasting. And We will certainly reward the steadfast according to the best of their deeds.”
Quran [16:96]
This is the reward for the righteous believers who struggle to please Allah, It was narrated from Anas bin Malik that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:
يُؤْتَى يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ بِأَنْعَمِ أَهْلِ الدُّنْيَا مِنَ الْكُفَّارِ فَيُقَالُ اغْمِسُوهُ فِي النَّارِ غَمْسَةً . فَيُغْمَسُ فِيهَا ثُمَّ يُقَالُ لَهُ أَىْ فُلاَنُ هَلْ أَصَابَكَ نَعِيمٌ قَطُّ فَيَقُولُ لاَ مَا أَصَابَنِي نَعِيمٌ قَطُّ . وَيُؤْتَى بِأَشَدِّ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ضُرًّا وَبَلاَءً . فَيُقَالُ اغْمِسُوهُ غَمْسَةً فِي الْجَنَّةِ . فَيُغْمَسُ فِيهَا غَمْسَةً فَيُقَالُ لَهُ أَىْ فُلاَنُ هَلْ أَصَابَكَ ضُرٌّ قَطُّ أَوْ بَلاَءٌ فَيَقُولُ مَا أَصَابَنِي قَطُّ ضُرٌّ وَلاَ بَلاَءٌ ” . (سنن بن ماجه)
“On the Day of Resurrection, the believer who suffered the most hardship and trouble will be brought and it will be said: ‘Dip him once in Paradise.’ So he will be dipped in it and it will be said to him: ‘O so-and-so, have you ever suffered any hardship or trouble?’ He will say: ‘I have never suffered any hardship or trouble.’”
Grade: Sahih
So, don’t burn the candle on both ends, Don’t be envious; Prophet Muhammad said:
لا يؤمن أحدكم حتى يحب لأخيه ما يحب لنفسه”
The Prophet (PBUH) said, “No one of you becomes a true believer until he likes for his brother what he likes for himself”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
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Conclusion
To sum it up, be satisfied with what you have; you have countless blessings that you were showered with since you were a fetus in your mother’s womb, till you meet your Lord, though you didn’t work hard to earn any of it! Be thankful to your God and worship Him properly; you must achieve your target, as God said “And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed,
قال الله تعالى:” وَإِذۡ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمۡ لَئِن شَكَرۡتُمۡ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمۡۖ وَلَئِن كَفَرۡتُمۡ إِنَّ عَذَابِي لَشَدِيدٞ (7) ” سورة ابراهيم
“If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe.”
[Quran 14:7]
