Once you hear the word “Marriage”, how do you feel? And how your emotions would be? Maybe you are smiling and feeling happy, comfort and warm.
1- Created from it its mate!
Adam opened his eyes and looked into the beautiful face of a woman gazing down at him. Adam was surprised and asked the woman why she had been created. She revealed that she was to ease his loneliness and bring tranquility to him. The Angels questioned Adam. They knew that Adam possessed knowledge of things they did not know about and the knowledge mankind would need to occupy the earth. They said ‘who is this?’ and Adam replied ‘this is Eve’.
Eve is “Hawwa” in Arabic; it comes from the root word “Hay حَيّ”; meaning living. Eve is also an English variant of the old Hebrew word “Havva”, also deriving from “Hay”. Eve was so named because she was made from a part of him and he, Adam; was a living being.
Both Jewish and Christian traditions also maintain that Eve was created from Adam’s rib, although in a literal translation of the Jewish tradition, rib is sometimes referred to as side.
O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah , through whom you ask one another, and the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer.” [Quran 4:1]
It’s narrated that Eve was created while Adam was sleeping from his shortest left rib and that, after sometime, she was clothed with flesh. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) used the story of Eve’s creation from Adam’s rib as a basis for imploring people to be gentle and kind to women.
Treat women nicely, for a women is created from a rib, and the most curved portion of the rib is its upper portion, so, if you should try to straighten it, it will break, but if you leave it as it is, it will remain crooked. So treat women nicely.” [Saheeh Al-Bukhari]
2- Like a Garment
They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them” [Quran 2:187]
How a beautiful expression that Allah chose to describe this special relationship between a man and his wife?! Moreover the word “Clothing” as used in this context is rich with meanings:
A- In our day-to-day life, we see many uses for clothing. Not only does our dress act as a beautification for ourselves, but it also covers any defects that we may have on our physical body – thus, if a person has a scar or burn mark on his body, the clothing will cover this from others around him and thus, they would not know that he has such a physical ‘defect’. Quran seems to direct husband and wife to play the same role in relation to one another. If the wife has spiritual defects or lacks something in her character, then the husband must cover these up and not expose her shortcomings to others. The wife too, must cover up and hide her husband’s deficiencies and weaknesses and protect her mate.
B- Garments also conceal the body and protect the wearer so that a husband and wife are each other’s protectors and helpers and each of them safeguards their partner’s honor shaping the state of marriage into a haven and a sanctuary where each should feel safe and secure, sheltered in one another’s care and guardianship.
C- Clothing implies peace and tranquility and a husband and a wife should find in one another peace and tranquility.
3- Affection and Mercy:
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” [Quran 30:21]
In this verse we see that Allah regards the creation of spouses – the husband and wife – as a sign of His greatness. Not only has Allah created these two individuals, but in order to find peace and harmony between the two of them, He himself has placed affection and mercy between them so that they can live a life of tranquility. Moreover, Allah makes affection and mercy, which were derived from his holy names “The Ever-affectionate“ and “The Most-Merciful“, the bases of the married life. The relationship between spouses is based on affection and mercy, not on ardent love, desire and passion.
It is a relationship which is based on quiet love (Affection) and mutual mercy, not illusions of love which fail to withstand reality or romantic fantasies which fail to create a successful marriage. The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, gave us the best example of loving his wives. It was narrated in the pure Sunnah (tradition) that the Prophet was careful to put his mouth on the same place from which his wife ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, drank. Also during his final illness, he used her Siwaak (tooth stick) and died while he was reclined against her chest, between her neck and bosom. What kind of love is nobler and more sublime than this?
In conclusion, marriage is one of the noblest human relationships. Most of the previous prophets have wives; Allah says:
And We have already sent messengers before you and assigned to them wives and descendants.“ [Quran 13:38]
And The Messenger of Allah said: Four are from the Sunan (traditions of the Messengers):
Modesty, Atar (using Perfume), Siwaak (tooth stick), and marriage.” [Jami` at-Tirmidhi].
So if you seek pleasure, comfort, happiness, and enjoyment, follow the method of the prophets and marry.