What Is the Concept of Marriage in Islam?
Marriage is one of Allah’s natural norms in His creatures; It is public and incessant, which is not deviated whether in the world of human beings, the world of animals and birds or even in the world of plants. Allah; the Almighty said in His book:
And of all things We created two mates [i.e., counterparts]; perhaps you will remember.” [Qur’an 51:49] (1)
Marriage is the system that Allah chose for sexual reproduction and multiplication so that life could continue after He prepared the couple quite well so that each one could perform and act his role positively to achieve the following end:
O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Aware.” [Qur’an 49:13] (2)
And He also said:
O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah, through whom you ask one another, and the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer.” [Qur’an 4:1] (3)
Human Is Unique Creation
Allah did not want the man to be like His other creatures; animals & birds, that is to let his instincts burst out unconsciously. He did not want to let the connection between the male and female (man and woman) be uncontrollable chaos.
Allah put a system that best suits the human being’s mastership and supremacy on earth: that system keeps man’s honor and maintains his dignity. That is why Allah made the relation between man and woman a dignified one that depends on their agreement and approval (that is affirmation and consent.) It also depends on witnesses that each one has become the other’s mate.
In this way, Allah has put a sexual instinct in its safe course, protected the offspring from loss and protected woman from being available grass for he who wills.
Allah also put the nucleus family that is guarded by maternity instinct that looks after and takes care of it and also guarded by paternity affection that defends it against dangers.
It is then the family that can provide the society with good citizens who know their rights and duties and who serve their fellowmen, their society and most of all serve their religion. This is the system sent by Allah and adopted by Islam that refused anything else.
Is Marriage a Must in Islam? OR Should Young Man Seek to Get Married? Why?
Islam aroused the interest of young men to get married by different ways. Islam states that marriage is one of the natural norms adopted by prophets and messengers’ guidance. As they are the leaders we should take as the best example.
And We have already sent messengers before you and assigned to them wives and descendants. And it was not for a messenger to come with a sign except by permission of Allah. For every term is a decree.” [Qur’an 13:38] (4)
Our prophet Mohammed (PBUH) said:
In this world, women and perfume have been made dear to me, and my comfort has been provided in prayer.” [Hadith] (5)
Islam also mentions marriage as a feeling of gratefulness.
So Allah said:
And Allah has made for you from yourselves mates and has made for you from your mates sons and grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things. Then in falsehood do they believe and in the favor of Allah they disbelieve?” [Qur’an 16:72] (6)
Marriage Is One of Allah’s Signs
Islam also speaks about marriage as one of Allah’s signs.
So Allah says:
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” [Qur’an 30:21] (7)
Are You Hesitant?
A young man may be hesitant. So he abstains from getting married because he fears its costs. He prefers to escape from undertaking its responsibilities and burdens.
Here Islam draws his attention that Allah will make marriage easier for him. Moreover, He will enable him to be rich through marriage. Allah will undertake all burdens he fears to bear. This way he will be able to overcome all causes of poverty.
So Allah says:
And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty, and Allah is all-Encompassing and Knowing.” [Qur’an 24:32] (8)
Abdallah b. ‘Amr reported God’s Messenger as saying,
The whole world is to be enjoyed, but the best thing in the world is a good woman.“ [Hadith] (9)
Omar bin Al-Khattab (May Allah be pleased with him) said that Islam commands Muslims not to be extreme in giving dowries. Abu Huraira reported God’s Messenger as saying,
How to Get God’s Help?
the slave whose master has agreed to let him buy his freedom when he wishes to pay the sum, the one who marries desiring to live a chaste life, and the one who fights in God’s path.“ [Hadith] (10)
A young man sometimes, in a moment of spiritual vigilance, seeks to devote himself to God and abstain from sexual intercourse in marriage, so he intends to isolate himself from women and society. He seeks to pray all night, fast all day and seclude himself from women. In this way, he seeks to be a monk or a friar (a woman seeks to be a nun).
Here Islam teaches him that monasticism contrasts with man’s nature and instinct. It also contrasts with his religion; Islam. Our prophet Moh. (PBUH)- Who is the most fearing of and the most pious to Allah-said:
Yet I pray and sleep; I fast and break my fast; and I marry women. He who is displeased with my Sunnah (practices) is not my followed.” [Agreed upon].” [Hadith] (11)
To conclude, the righteous (virtuous and pious) wife is a flood of happiness that covers her family and fills it with joy, delight and bright, as our Prophet, Mohammed (PBUH) said. Marriage is some sort of worship by which the young man perfects half of his religion, so he meets Allah (after his death) in the most purified and honored condition.